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Decluttering our lives

21 July 2023
What do you yearn for?

I spent last week living in a farmer’s field in a glamping pod measuring roughly 3m by 4m, with my daughter on our annual, much treasured trip to south west Cornwall.  We’ve tried various accommodation options over the years but seem to have settled contentedly on this pod, which is just one of three on a hillside overlooking the bay. After a day visiting St Ives where we used to stay, I asked my daughter if she was missing the hustle and bustle of being in a town with everything on our doorstep, or the much more spacious former sail loft that we rented before.   ‘No’ was her emphatic reply. ‘I love the simplicity of being here’.

And she was right – aside from the draw of the mesmerising Cornish coast and countryside, what we love most about our stay there is our temporarily pared-down style of living. We leave all the usual ‘essentials’ behind, take very little with us and make few plans in advance.  The pod is cleverly designed with a sleeping area, sofa area, small tv, kitchenette and shower room and it is fully insulated with underfloor heating for the winter months, but there is no wifi, iron, washing machine nor – eek! – a hairdryer and precious little spare space. Goodbye daily blowdry and make-up routine, hello ‘natural’ looks aka sea-salt-tangled hair, crumpled tshirts and the shorts we wore yesterday (and probably the day before that). There’s only one tiny mirror anyway so we can’t really see how dishevelled we look.  We love it.


We go for the huge view, the sense of space around us, the peace and quiet (no deafening 4am dawn chorus unlike at our house) and because we slow right down.  Lazy breakfasts on the decking, looking out to sea. Watching the farmer hypnotically sowing row after endless row of tiny cauliflower plants that’ll be supplying the national supermarkets in a few months’ time. Noticing how St Michael’s Mount disappears completely from view as the rain clouds roll in.  Following the swallows as they dip and soar over the wildflowers at dusk. We potter about locally, visiting favourite beaches with simple packed lunches and picking up fish and chips on the sea front for tea, or play card games on rainy afternoons.

As we unwind and enjoy ‘pod’ life, we fantasize about living this simply back home. It wouldn’t work easily – there’s next to no storage space and no washing machine for starters. And we can’t be on holiday forever. But our thoughts and chatter turn to ‘clearing stuff out’ and living life a bit less hectically when we get back. We yearn for a slower, simpler life with less stuff. My daughter has vowed to edit down the games cupboard and I’m tackling the utility room and garage.

It's not just about streamlining our possessions though. Decluttering life means, to me, spending less time driving around from A to B (hard to achieve when you live rurally), being less driven by our ‘to do’ lists and having more time to chat and play together, invent games and create memories that will linger long after the summer is over.  As Daniel Kahneman says in ‘Thinking Fast and Slow’, it’s the peaks and endings that matter. In our later years we’re unlikely to remember any of the repetitive routine of work, chores and daily busyness that fill our hours today, but we will remember the emotional highs and lows and the unexpectedly rich moments together, like the impromptu card game of ‘Cheat’ four of us played earlier this week where we all laughed so hard the tears were pouring down our cheeks. What does 'decluttering life' mean to you?

Over the next few weeks, between the work/parenting juggle,  I’m aiming to spend an hour a day just chilling, where I’m available for games, idle chatter, inventing things and going on spontaneous mini-adventures.  Or not available because I’m dozing, daydreaming, tinkering (badly) on the piano or watching our pet hen Nettie emerge from the flower beds to chase butterflies. I know September, with its back-to-work-and-school routines, will roll around before we know it but hopefully by then I’ll have a decluttered house and mind to act as a restorative buffer against the autumn rush. And some lasting, more meaningful memories of a simpler, more satisfying summer.

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