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Old Year resolutions

14 December 2020

 
I've started my New Year resolutions early.  Or is it late?

 

Why?  Well, writing a business book about time in organisations means I’m reading other books about time. I’ve recently finished Time Smart, Off the Clock and Time to Think.  Whilst my book is about our collective use of time at work, rather than personal time management, I’ve still been curious to try out some of the advice shared by other authors.  I’m not looking for tips on how to work smarter or harder (been there, done that for far too many years), just the opposite. How to switch off better, how to create more downtime, how to feel more ‘time affluent’. 

I confess I’ve got a love-hate relationship with time. I’ve never managed to achieve a harmonious balance between being busy and being delightfully idle.  I’m definitely more of a ‘doing’ person than a ‘being’ person.  As a Myers Briggs ‘Judging’ type, my preference is to play once work is done.  I’m also a perfectionist (I wish I wasn’t) and like to make sure a job is done properly.  All this means that taking time out for myself during the day and letting go of unfinished work does not come naturally (I wish it did).

So, in my quest for a better relationship with time, I recently started:
  1. Running for half an hour every morning.  Yes, every day. No I can’t believe it either.  For the last 2 years since I ran the London Marathon, I’ve run 3 times a week and have felt proud of that. I’ve fallen into running daily by accident, after a friend suggested we run together the day after I’d run.  Rather than cancel, I ran with her and was surprised to discover it felt better than I’d expected. Out of sheer curiosity, I ran again the next day and I’ve simply carried on from there.
  2. Writing every morning for 20 minutes as soon as I get up.  This practice of writing ‘Morning Pages’ is supposedly conducive to creativity and clarity and is recommended by many writers I admire.  No-one reads the output except me. The writing has no purpose other than to write non-stop, about anything, and see what emerges. Sometimes a new idea or realisation lands on the page. Other times, nothing significant.  I’ve come to view the process as simply opening the door to my mind and letting out the thoughts that are pressed up at the entrance so that there’s space for other thoughts to emerge.  It reminds me of our chickens pressed up impatiently at the coop door each the morning.
  3. Dividing up my day. Each morning I write a short list of the work tasks I want to achieve that day. I keep this as brief as possible, max five things. Or just one if it’s a biggie. Next to this, I write my list of home chores and personal admin.  Again, top priorities only.  I also include my downtime: reading, resting, calling friends and family, so these don’t get treated like afterthoughts but are woven into my day. Then I divide up my day into 30-60 minute chunks and allocate these chunks to the items on my combined lists. Unsurprisingly, there’s never enough time to accomplish everything.  More on that shortly…
So what am I learning from these new habits?  
  1. I thought I’d have given up on them after the novelty wore off, but I haven’t. Stubborn? Yes! But there’s more to it than that.
  2. It’s been eye-opening to discover I can discard long-held assumptions about myself quite quickly, for example…
  3.  … I’d always believed I could never run daily. I can.  Not only that, I feel healthier, I have more energy and I’m sleeping better.
  4. After my Morning Pages my mind feels rested and clear.  No more ‘washing machine head’ with my mental load stuck on a fast spin cycle.  Just an open door.
  5. My daily time planning forces me to make some trade offs and - gasp - even take some things off my to-do lists. Delegating is rarely an option, although I’m training my 9 year old up as fast as I can.
  6. I don’t manage to stick to my time plan every day; afternoons tend to go awry. But I’ve got better at focusing on the important stuff and cutting down on the procrastination and self-imposed distractions. Moving my office upstairs and further from the fridge has also helped.
I haven’t cracked it completely; I definitely still wrestle with time.  But I’m slowly getting better at balancing ‘doing’ with ‘being’.  I hope it’s making me a bit more patient and up for spontaneous family fun. Mostly, it’s helping me cope with these dark winter days and limited social interactions.  What works for you may be very different. Do let me know, I’d love to hear.  And why not set some Old Year resolutions yourself? At least you'll start the New Year feeling like you're already ahead.

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